Wednesday, June 13, 2012

The Library of Congress Finally Acknowledges Donor Offspring: (But this is only a beginning)

In 2009, I published an article for the American Fertility Association entitled, "Librarians at a Loss to Help Donor Offspring," which I just last month reworked for the AASL blog. In it, I talked about the difficulty identifying books for parents and donor offspring children due to a lack of recognition by the Library of Congress in the form of an official subject heading. In 2010, Patricia Mendell and I published an article in Children & Libraries about self-published children's picture books about assisted reproductive technology. It included an extensive annotated bibliography of about 38 titles which was the entire number of books that we were able to identify at that time. (The number of children's books on that topic has since doubled).

The list was significant because, other than the list first published by the American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM) and compiled by Elaine Gordon, PhD and Ellen Speyer, MFT and the ASRM Education Committee, there was no other comprehensive list of children's books on this subject. As a librarian, such a list should have been a breeze to compile. I figured I would start with ASRM's list and then search for those books in the Library of Congress, see what subject headings were assigned to catalog them, and then create a new list. Well, it turned out, that would be impossible as the Library of Congress had no subject headings for "Donor offspring," "Children of gamete donors, or "Children of surrogate mothers," let alone subject headings for children of egg donors, sperm donors, or embryo adoption. Having already identified a few titles about these subjects that were included in the Library of Congress, but not cataloged as such, I wrote to them and suggested they create a new subject heading, "Donor-conceived," defined as individuals who have been created via sperm, eggs, or embryos donated by another person (a gamete donor). I also figured that since I myself was a librarian, my suggestion would have some influence. This is what I wrote:
There are many subject headings for "Children of --", i.e. Children of celebrities, Children of rabbis, Children of single parents, etc., but there are no subject headings for "Children of sperm donors" or "Children of surrogate mothers" or any of the assisted reproductive technologies. As a librarian, I have identified over 40 children's and YA books that have major characters who are the children of sperm donors, egg donors, etc., which is crucial to the plot and purpose of the book. Yet there is no subject heading under which to search for these books. My lists are here: http://booksfordonoroffspring.blogspot.com and here: http://yabooksfordonoroffspring.blogspot.com if you would like to see the books I've identified. There are more than enough to constitute the creation of a new LC subject heading. I would love to hear back from you on this as well. I'm a huge fan of the LC and I am at your site every day for my work.
However, this is the response I received:
We have not had the need to establish a heading for the children of sperm donors, as we have not cataloged any items that specifically focus of that topic. The existing headings have been adequate for the items that we've cataloged. We establish new headings only as they are needed for cataloging new works being added to our collection.
Not deterred, I wrote back to them:
How about "Artificial insemination, Human -- Offspring" or "Surrogate mothers -- Offspring?" These subject headings focus on the parents who produce these children, but there are no subjects yet for the donor-conceived. For example, the book: Sperm Donor Offspring: Identity and Other Experiences by Lynne W. Spencer, has as its subject headings: "Sperm banks -- United States" and "Artificial insemination, Human" but other than the title, the average patron might not know that this is a book about donor offspring if they were searching for a book that addressed the specific concerns of donor offspring.
And this is what they wrote back:
Our practice has been to use headings such as "Artificial insemination, Human" and "Surrogate motherhood" to catalog works on this topic.
That was in April 2009. Fast forward to June 2012 when I received a letter from noted radical librarian Sanford Berman, who is to the Library of Congress what Socrates was to ancient Athens and who is the subject of his own biography, Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sandy Berman But Were Afraid to Ask. He read our article in Children & Libraries in August 2010 and himself wrote to the Library of Congress on our behalf suggesting they add the subject heading "Donor offspring" based on the extensive list of children's books put forth in our article. His letter informed me that the Library of Congress had finally decided to create a new subject heading for "Children of sperm donors." I jumped out of my chair when I read this! While some would like to believe that this announcement by the Library of Congress marks the beginning of an official public acknowledgement recognizing the existence of families created with the help of donors, the reality is that once again the rights of the donor-conceived are still being only partially represented and totally misunderstood. It is clear that the Library of Congress, in creating this new subject heading for "Children of sperm donors," has shown that they lack a genuine understanding of the donor offspring created with gamete donation, but also the implications both medically and psychologically surrounding the use of assisted reproductive technology (ART), as they also use the subject heading "Test tube babies" for children conceived via in vitro fertilization (IVF) even though they are created in petri dishes and not test tubes.

While their new subject heading follows their own convention for "Children of --," as in "Children of gay parents," and "Children of single parents," (two official LC subject headings), it is less than adequate and quite limiting for librarians trying to help these families find resources, as only one group of donor offspring is represented - children of sperm donors. If the subject heading must be listed under children, then it should be entitled "Children of gamete donors." Other variants then could be "Donor-conceived" or "Donor offspring."

While some will feel positively now that the Library of Congress has at last begun to acknowledge children created through donation with the assistance of another person, my colleague and co-author Patricia Mendell is less optimistic. "As a mental health practitioner who has been working in the field of reproductive medicine for over 25 years, the decision by the Library of Congress to create a subject heading for only one group of donor offspring is not only disappointing and frustrating, but hurtful and offensive to the thousands of donor-conceived individuals and their families who have been created with the help of assisted reproductive technologies."

When I decided to write to the Library of Congress in 2009, it was clear that they needed to create an all encompassing subject heading for the donor-conceived. Also, using the subject heading "Donor-conceived" would be the best and most accurate subject heading since it would recognize all individuals created with the help of a donor. The subject heading "Children of sperm donors" used for "Sperm donors' children," seems to imply an ownership or affiliation that may or may not feel accurate to the donor-conceived.


 
While the next step might be to get the Library of Congress to create subject headings for "Children of egg donors," "Children of surrogate mothers," and "Children of embryo donation," we would suggest instead that they look at the subject heading "Donor-conceived." Although it was possible to find some of this material using the existing Library of Congress subject headings like "Infertility," and "Artificial insemination -- Human," there was nothing that identified the experience of being a donor offspring. Books such as Janice Grimes' book series, Before you were born: our wish for a baby were cataloged as "Artificial insemination -- Human." And the Iréné Celcer series, Hope and Will have a baby was cataloged with "Infertility," and "Test tube babies" as subject headings. These subject headings were wholly inaccurate and inadequate. So how to find these books will remain a big challenge if one is looking for books about those conceived via surrogate mother, egg, and embryo donation.

I plan to continue to write to the Library of Congress and share with them the books that I have discovered without the help of a Library of Congress subject heading, urging them to create further change in how they catalog their books for this population of children. We know that of the many children's books on this subject, over 95 percent have been self-published, but many have not been sent to the copyright office of the Library of Congress. We would ask that these authors register their books and in so doing put pressure on the Library of Congress that they must, and need to, have a subject heading for "Donor-conceived."

 This post was co-authored with Patricia Mendell

Thursday, May 31, 2012

Coline : souvenirs d'une fécondation in vitro

Coline : souvenirs d'une fécondation in vitro
by Lia Singh
illuatrated by Carine
Language: French
Schweizerische Gesellschaft für Fertilität, Sterilität und Familienplanung. [Genève] : Serono ; [Kehrsatz (Postfach 125, 3122)] : [Société suisse de fertilité, stérilité et de planning familial], cop. 1997.
41 p. : ill. ; 31 cm.
ISBN: 2970016206; 9782970016205
Summary: Cet album, distribué en Suisse par les Laboratoires Pharmaceutiques Sérono, traite de la fécondation in vitro, sujet exceptionnellement abordé en BD! On y découvre Coline, petite fille de 4 ans, dont c'est l'anniversaire. C'est l'occasion pour sa mère de se rappeler les circonstances de sa conception. Le long parcours de la fécondation in vitro, les résultats d'examens négatifs, les consultations sans fin, les entretiens avec le psychologue, les amies enceintes chaque année que l'on se met à détester, l'évitement des écoles, des anciens amis et leurs enfants, l'adoption envisagée après tant d'échecs, les répercussions sur le travail, le moral...Et enfin, un jour, après des années de désespoirs, la grossesse et la naissance tant désirée. Avec un graphisme très réaliste, magnifique, l'auteur nous convie à partager une histoire pleine d'émotion et très didactique. Quelques pages de texte explicatif complètent cette BD. Une réussite!
More information: http://www.bdmedicales.com/descriptif/colinesouvenirsdunefecondationinvitro.htm

Dans notre histoire, il y a ... une graine magique!

Dans notre histoire, il y a ... une graine magique!
Illustré par Nicolas Hunerblaes
Language: French
Association MAIA, 2008
1 vol. (non paginé [26] p.) : ill. en coul., couv. ill. en coul. ; 20 cm.
ISBN: 9782952797719; 2952797714
Reading level: 3-6
My annotation: In our story, there is a magic seed! is a very simple and straightforward story of an infertile couple who love each other very much and have been trying for a long time to have a baby but have not been successful. The book explains to children that it takes a “seed” from the dad and an “egg” from the mom to have a baby, so when they go to see a doctor who tells them that it is the husband’s “seed” that is the problem, this makes the couple very sad. But the good news, the doctor tells them, is that there are men who "donate" their seeds so that people like them can have babies. Mom goes to the hospital where she is inseminated, becomes pregnant and “(a)fter several months, our long-awaited baby was born! And that baby was you!” The book takes a family-building approach and employs “the helper” script. Recommended for ages 3-5 and only available in French.
Available: http://www.maia-asso.org/
Available: http://www.amazon.fr/Dans-notre-histoire-graine-magique/dp/2952797714/ref=pd_cp_b_3

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

I felt you flutter in my heart

I felt you flutter in my heart
written and created by Choice Moms and Choice Kids
Language: English
Blurb, 2012
20 p. : col. ill. ; 17 x 17 cm.
My annotation: This is the very tender story that a single mom begins to tell her daughter of how much she felt her life “would not feel complete until you were here with me.” Teased by the new boy at the park for not having a daddy, Isabella no longer wants to go back. When her mommy asks her what’s wrong, Isabella asks her mommy for the first time, “That new boy at the park said everyone has a daddy. Why don’t I?” That’s when her mommy tells her the story of how she had always known that she wanted to be a mother but that she had never met the “perfect daddy.” Her mom tells her that she had to go to a doctor to get help but she does not explain the nuts and bolts of human reproduction or mention anything about a donor. She goes on to tell her it will always be okay for her to ask questions, to be sad about not having a daddy, and even mad, because daddies are indeed “very special people.” This book reads autobiographically and the love the mom has for her daughter is tangible. It would be an excellent springboard for all single mothers to begin the conversation with their children about why they don’t have a father in their lives and why they made the choice to have a child without a daddy. This book takes a family-building approach and employs the “labor of love” script. The full-color illustrations are drawn by various children and the book is recommended for ages 3-5. 
Available: http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/2974967

A Bun in the Oven: The Story of Conception Via Donor Egg

A bun in the oven: the story of conception via donor egg
by Anita Stokes
illustrated by Red
Language: English
[Hamilton, N.Z.] : A. Stokes, 2011.
1 v. (unpaged) : col. ill. ; 21 cm.
ISBN: 9780473190002; 0473190001
$16.99
Available directly from author: paulstokes@slingshot.co.nz

Mommy, did I grow in your tummy? Where many babies come from

Mommy, did I grow in your tummy? Where many babies come from
by Elaine R. Gordon, Ph.D.
illustrated by Kathy O'Malley
Language: English
Santa Monica, CA : EM Greenberg Press, Inc., 2011.
28 p. : col. ill. ; 22 x 28 cm.
ISBN: 9780615402888; 0615402887
$16.95 
My annotation: A little girl asks her mommy, “Did I grow in your tummy?” and the mommy tells her that she’s asked a very important question and takes that as a good time to read her little girl a story. It is the story of Sandy and Bob who really wanted a baby. They “read all the books on how to make a baby, but no matter how hard they tried, no baby was made.” So they visit a doctor who tells them that there are “all kinds of reasons why” some people can’t make babies, but that there are other ways and that Sandy and Bob have to pick the best way for them, "They have to think very hard and make a very important decision." The book then goes on to explain five different methods for having a baby: sperm donation, egg donation, surrogacy, in vitro fertilization, and adoption. These methods, all introduced with the proper vocabulary, are all explained in a way that a child could understand them. For egg donation for example, “A mom might not have an egg to join with the dad’s sperm. But she can still grow a baby in her body. When this happens, another woman, called an egg donor, can help by donating or giving her egg to meet and join with the dad’s sperm.” Suitable for young children, the book does not go into detail about how sperm and egg get together under normal circumstances, except to say that "a dad puts his sperm into the mom and a baby starts to grow." At the end of the story, Sandy and Bob get the baby they so desired (the book doesn’t say by what method), but adds, “but it really doesn't matter because Bob and Sandy ended up with their dream come true - a wonderful, wonderful baby.” This is the second edition of this 1992 publication, which was one of the first five books of its kind ever written or published. Unlike the first edition, the terms GIFT and ZIFT are not mentioned, which is fine because they were not explained in the first edition. The book takes a family-building approach and a child-conception approach and employs the “all families are made differently” and “the helper” scripts. There are full color illustrations and it is recommended for children ages 3-5. 
Available: http://www.elainegordon.com/Elaine_R._Gordon,_Ph.D./Books.html

Mom and dad and the journey they had

Mom and dad and the journey they had
by Molly Summer
illustrated by Monica Meza
Language: English
CreateSpace, c2010
28 pp.
ISBN: 9781452827032; 1452827036  
$16.00
Summary: The Thompson home is bustling with excitement because soon they will be welcoming a new baby into their family and Patrick will be a big brother for the very first time! As they are preparing the house, Patrick asks his parents to tell him about when he was a baby. They tell him about the incredible journey they took to have him, with the help of an egg donor and gestational surrogate.  
Available: http://www.amazon.com/Mom-Dad-Journey-They-Had/dp/1452827036/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1281455654&sr=8-5#reader_1452827036
Available: http://lovemakesafamilybooks.com/books-assisted-reproduction.html

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

The baby about to be born: a story of spirit for adoptive and A.R.T. families

The baby about to be born: a story of spirit for adoptive and A.R.T. families
by Karen Daniels
illustrated by Marla Thirsk
Language: English
CreateSpace, 2011
38 p. : col. ill. ; 22 x 22 cm.
ISBN: 0615469531; 9780615469539  
My annotation: Baybo is a spirit who goes to "Earth planning classes" and resides on the planet Stobb, which stands for “soon to be born.” Each spirit gets to choose who their parents will be on Earth but Baybo is stuck. He does not know who he wants his parents to be. All he does know is that he wants to be a little boy and that he wants to do something "really special." As little spirit after little spirit leaves the classroom to be born on Earth, Baybo is starting to feel bad that he does not know who he wants to be born to yet. He finally asks Fornax, his teacher, what he should do and Fornax shows him a beautiful but sad room "that holds the love and wishes of parents who long for children but have not yet been able to have them." These parents he tells Baybo, are especially deserving of children because they want them so badly, and "have to take unusual paths to find their babies." Baybo realizes that this is exactly who he wants to be born to, as they "only allow very special spirits to go to these people." This book is suitable for both families who have adopted as well as families built through ART. Although the author herself went through IVF, the book does not introduce any vocabulary to the reader. It is simply a story about a spirit that is about to be born on Earth. This book takes a child-conception and a family-building approach and employs the “labor of love” script. Full color illustrations on every other page depict a spirit world different from our Earthly world. Recommended for ages 5-8 because of the heady, spirituous concepts introduced.
Available: https://www.createspace.com/3586347

Jhwee and Jhwah

Jhwee and Jhwah
by Nancy Lee Andrie
illustrated by Ryan Goodman
Language: English
CreateSpace, 2012
40 pp.
ISBN: 9781470029913; 147002991X
$12.00 
Summary: A children's story about In Vitro Fertilization (IVF).
Available: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/147002991X/ref=ox_sc_act_image_1?ie=UTF8&m=ATVPDKIKX0DER

Heather has two mommies

Heather has two mommies
by Lesléa Newman
illus. by Diana Souza
Language: English
Boston, Mass. : Alyson Wonderland, ©1989.
[36] p. : ill. ; 28 cm.
ISBN: 155583180X; 9781555831806  
My annotation: First published in 1989 and now out of print, this was the first book published in the United States for children that not only introduced a lesbian family but also introduced the concept of artificial insemination. Although the book mentions artificial insemination, as well as the words “womb,” “sperm,” “egg,” and “vagina,” it does not go into any further explanation about why artificial insemination would be needed in order to make a baby. Nor does it go into any explanation about what artificial insemination is. “Kate and Jane went to see a special doctor together. After the doctor examined Jane to make sure that she was healthy, she put some sperm into Jane’s vagina. The sperm swam up into Jane’s womb. If there was an egg waiting there, the sperm and the egg would meet and the baby would start to grow.” Because of public challenges to this part of the book, not to mention the depiction of a lesbian family, the 10th and 20th anniversary editions of the book did away with the pages devoted to Mama Jane’s undergoing of artificial insemination and in an email with the author, even in these times with even more same-sex households with children, there is no intention to return those pages of the book to subsequent editions. This book takes a family-building approach because it shows that Mama Jane and Mama Kate wanted to build a family, and employs the “all families are made differently” script when Heather goes to play group and meets children who come from all different sorts of families. Heather turns out not to be the only child with same-sex parents. There are black and white drawings and the book is recommended for children ages 3-5. This edition of the book would only be available from bookstores which specialize in out of print books.
Author's Web site: http://www.lesleakids.com/

Monday, May 28, 2012

Training Wheels: How Did I Get Here?

Training Wheels: How Did I Get Here?
by Chris E. Barrett and Sally B. Hunter
illustrated by Tyler Garrison
Language: English
National Embryo Donation Center, 2011
20 pp.
ISBN: 9780615560243; 0615560245
$15.59   
Summary: NEDC's Digital Media Manager Chris Barrett collaborated with University of Tennessee psychology professor, Dr. Sally B. Hunter to create a heartwarming book called "Training Wheels: How Did I Get Here?" The story is about five year old Miles and the new bike he gets for his birthday from his special friend, Mike in California. Miles' parents explain that Mike's mom and dad generously donated their remaining embryos and he was born as a result of their loving gift. The book is told in a delightful rhyming pattern, using words that are easy for preschoolers to understand and a storyline that will help to satisfy their curiosity about where they came from. Fun and colorful illustrations by Knoxville, TN artist, Tyler Garrison saturate the book and enhances it appeal to young children.  
Available: http://www.amazon.com/Training-Wheels-How-Did-Here/dp/0615560245/ref=sr_1_cc_1?s=aps&ie=UTF8&qid=1338203231&sr=1-1-catcorr  
More information here: http://www.embryodonation.org/index.php?content=trainingWheels

Daddy Dog and Papi Panda's rainbow family

Daddy Dog and Papi Panda's rainbow family
written and illus. by Anthony Hale
Language: English
CreateSpace, 2012.
33 pp. : col. ill. ; 22 x 22 cm.
ISBN: 9781475090888; 1475090889
My annotation: Daddy Dog and Papi Panda were just Mr. Dog and Mr. Panda until the day they received a call about a child monkey who was awaiting a family. Daddy Dog climbed aboard a plane and traveled very far in order to retrieve Mikey the Monkey and so the loving family - formally two - became a family of three. Then one day, Miss Cat announces that she’d like to carry a kitten for Daddy Dog and Papi Panda, but she did not have one kitten, or even two. She had three kittens and so their family of three expanded to a family of six. This is the story of how a two-dad family was built via adoption and surrogacy. It takes a family-building approach and employs the “helper” script. Recommended for children ages 3-5.  
Available: https://www.createspace.com/3833939

Under a rainbow

Under a rainbow
by Zera Walpole
Language: English
Blurb, 2012
18 p. : col. ill. ; 17 x 18 cm.
My annotation: Told in rhyme, this is the story of two women who wanted to expand their family of two. The story is written for their son and tells of how they needed sperm and an egg in order to make a baby. They do not explain to him however where the sperm comes from or where the egg comes from, just that they themselves did not have any sperm and that they would have to search for a “special man” who would give them some of his. Their other stipulation is that this “special man” also be a “great Daddy” too. This is a tall order but they are successful and this book thus introduces the child to the concept of a known donor, although the term “donor” is not used. How much this Daddy is a part of their family is hinted at here when the author says, “you have a Daddy, so kind and so true/Who loves you as much as a Daddy could do.” Since he has a name and was also present at the child’s birth, this is a unique kind of family not represented in other children’s books. This book takes a family-building approach and employs "the helper,” “labor of love,” and “families are made differently” scripts. Computer art drawings are in full color and depict two happy women and a happy “Daddy” throughout. Recommended for ages 3-5.
Available: http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/3245206

More than four

More than four
by Katie Carone
illustrated by Britt Hendrickson
Language: English
CreateSpace, 2011
44 pp.
ISBN: 9781467956123; 1467956120
$11.95  
Summary: The Four Family is happy being four until they hear that the King has a special Package of Two waiting to join their family. However, they can't find a way to get to the palace. How will they pick up their package so they can be More Than Four? This heart-warming tale takes the reader on an emotional journey with the Four Family as they encounter various obstacles on the road to the palace where their special package is waiting. "More Than Four" exemplifies the struggles and heartache of families and couples dealing with infertility, and the joy and hope that one family received. Even with the deeper meaning and allegorical theme set aside, this stand-alone tale of love and sacrifice is simple and sweet to appeal to all audiences.
Available: http://www.amazon.com/More-Than-Four-Katie-Carone/dp/1467956120/ref=sr_1_7?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1338199906&sr=1-7

A Very Special Lady: A Story about IVF, an Egg Donor and a Little Girl

A Very Special Lady: A Story about IVF, an Egg Donor and a Little Girl
by Nell Carswell
illustrated by Sarah Merrigan
Language: English
CreateSpace, 2012
24 pp.
ISBN: 9781475115895; 147511589X
$14.95
Summary: A delightfully simple story about ivf, an egg donor and the arrival of a baby girl. Fabulous pictures make it ideal for very young children and a simple story makes it perfect for older children to read. Without forgetting "the Very Special Lady" that made it possible. There is also an identical story about the arrival of a baby boy.
Available: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/147511589X/ref=ox_sc_act_title_1?ie=UTF8&m=ATVPDKIKX0DER

Sunday, May 6, 2012

Librarians at a Loss to Help Donor Offspring

I do research. It might be why I became a librarian. I love to look things up, and then I enjoy the thrill of finding what I am looking for. I also enjoy looking things up for other people. But one of my favorite things to do is to look up subjects that are hard to find. But first you have to find subjects that are hard to find, and then try to find them. Well, I stumbled upon one. It’s books for and about donor offspring. What are donor offspring? They are children conceived via sperm or egg donation.

In 2003, I read a book review in Booklist of the book, Donuthead, by Sue Stauffacher. In the review, it was mentioned that the main character’s mother had had her son via artificial insemination. Serendipitously, I mentioned this to a friend who had an interest in this topic and she said, can you find me other books like that? Excited to perform a search, I said, “sure.” (I actually consider searching a hobby). So of course the first thing I did was go to the Library of Congress. I was going to take a look at their subject headings and just follow them and it would lead me to similar books. Well not so fast. It didn’t happen that way at all. The subjects listed for Donuthead were:

Friendship
Courage
Fear
Self-actualization (Psychology)
Single-parent families
Mothers and sons 

Where were the subject headings telling me that the main character was donor-conceived? There were none. Okay. Dead end. I wasn’t expecting that. Where do I go next? I decided to broaden my search by doing a keyword search. Of course this was an option from the beginning, I just wasn’t happy about it. I thought this would be easy. I searched the term “donor offspring” as that is what adults conceived via gamete donor call themselves. A search for this term turned up one book, Experiences of donor conception : parents, offspring, and donors through the years by Caroline Lorbach. I looked at the subject headings and decided to use those to again narrow my search. I found as subject headings:

Human reproductive technology
Infertility – Treatment
Reproductive health

This was not helpful. I was looking for juvenile fiction similar to Donuthead in which the main character was a “donor offspring.” I wanted to impress my friend with my searching skills. Maybe there were no other books? Could be. Long story short, there were other books. The trick was to use so many different keywords to actually find them, but I did find some. But why no uniform subject headings for books that were essentially all about the same subject? I wrote to the Library of Congress about this myself. I gave them the list of all the books I had found that were written for children, and that were in their catalog, who were donor offspring and this is the response I got:
We have not had the need to establish a heading for the children of sperm donors, as we have not cataloged any items that specifically focus on that topic. The existing headings have been adequate for the items that we’ve cataloged. We establish new headings only as they are needed for cataloging new works being added to our collection.
Why were they not responsive? And from a librarian no less? A little reading on the Library of Congress turns out that they have a history of not being responsive to adding or changing their subject headings. Have you heard of Sanford Berman, Library of Congress gadfly? Turns out he’s been battling the Library of Congress to change its subject headings for years so that real people, not just librarians, can find what they are looking for. He actually cited me in an article I wrote so I decided to write to him, and I was happy to hear that he not only read my article in Children & Libraries, but employed his gadfly expertise to lobby them to add a new subject heading. I suggested “Children of sperm donors,” or “Children of egg donors,” or “Children of gamete donors.” Surely these children need representation in the Library of Congress as the Library of Congress subjects headings are the “de facto standard for libraries,” as Hope A. Olson states in her book, The Power to Name. Isn’t it in naming something that we acknowledge that something, someone exists? The existence of these children were not acknowledged by the Library of Congress. At the time I wrote to them, I had discovered thirteen children’s books that were written either for donor offspring children, or about donor offspring children. Thirteen! (And I have since found so many more). And maybe thirteen doesn’t sound like a lot, but did you know that the Library of Congress has just one book on the children of epileptics, yet this category of people gets its own subject heading? Same for the children of clergy in England, the children of coal miners in France, and the children of mentally ill mothers, to name a few. Just one book each! Yet I had identified so many more for the subject I was proposing be added, but the Library of Congress does not budge on these matters apparently. So where does this leave us? It leaves us with people like me who love to look for the hard-to-look-for. I have ended up having to use up to thirty different keywords to find books that could be found with just one subject heading: “donor offspring,” or, to follow Library of Congress conventions, “Children of gamete donors.” But I have managed. To date I have found about seventy-six books written for donor offspring children, and I have found about fifteen books written for young adults, and boy has it been fun searching for the unsearchable. I will continue to publish about this as nobody else is, and maybe the Library of Congress will eventually listen.

Saturday, May 5, 2012

What makes a baby

What makes a baby
by Cory Silverberg
illustrated by Fiona Smyth 
Language: English 
New York : Seven Stories Press, ©2012, 2013. 
1 v. (unpaged) : col. ill. ; 24 cm. 
ISBN: 9781609804855; 1609804856
Annotation: The cover of this book states that this is “a book for every kind of family and every kind of kid” and it truly is. In the most general of ways, this book begins with the sperm and the egg but in a brilliant turn asserts what has not been asserted before in a children’s book, that some bodies have sperm, and some do not, and that some bodies have eggs, and others do not. This is so undeniable and obvious that one wonders why this hasn’t been stated in quite this same way before in a children’s book on human reproduction. While other books proclaim simply that sperm come from males and eggs come from females, this book admits that this is not always the case, again, without positively stating so. Think trans individuals for example. After introducing children to the terms sperm, egg, and uterus, Silverberg, a sexuality educator, asks, “Who helped bring together the sperm and the egg that made you?” Here the book clearly veers away from all other children’s books on reproduction by implying that not every sperm and egg come from a mommy and a daddy. In fact, the words mommy and daddy are completely absent from the book, conveying to children that not all families are made up of mommies and daddies. Although there are many other children’s books on assisted conception that state the same thing, this is one book that can be used for children conceived both with and without assisted technology. In fact it would be very useful in families where each sibling could possibly have been conceived in a different way. It provides absolutely no details about how the egg and sperm come together, whether through heterosexual intercourse or assisted conception, so the book clearly leaves the area wide open for parents to fill in these details, anticipating that the child will have lots of questions about how the sperm and egg get together in the first place in order to make babies. The rather sparse text is counterbalanced by the vibrant and vivid illustrations which convey a tremendous amount of information not specifically stated in the book, for the book’s aim is clearly to delineate the barest of facts about reproduction and leave the rest for the inevitable extended discussions and explanations that develop from a close reading between parent and child. For example, Silverberg writes, “Inside the egg are so many stories all about the body the egg came from.” Smyth’s illustrations then depict the inside of an egg with an open book, movie film, puppets, and a family tree. The egg is a very busy place! The same is done for the sperm with a look inside depicting family photos, a double helix, and another opened book. The book ends beautifully with the question, “Who was waiting for you to be born?” aptly letting children know that they are here because someone wanted them to be here. The brightly colored cartoon illustrations depict genderless bodies and no nudity. Recommended for children ages 3-5 and also 5-8. This is a book that children will want to go back to again and again with a parent as a reading partner to answer their evolving questions. This book comes with a highly recommended reader’s guide which can be downloaded from http://www.what-makes-a-baby.com/readers-guide/
Available: http://catalog.sevenstories.com/products/what-makes-a-baby
Interview with the author: http://whereisyourline.org/2011/08/badass-activist-friday-presents-cory-silverberg/ 

Friday, May 4, 2012

Once Upon a Surrogate: The Stork's Helpers

Once Upon a Surrogate: The Stork's Helpers
by Jill Hancock Reeder
illustrated by Tristan, Jessica, and Jill Reeder
Language: English
$16.95
Summary: Describes the process of surrogacy to the children of the surrogate, who are often overlooked in the process, Once Upon a Surrogate provides an excellent conversation starter for surrogates and their families.
Available: http://surrogacybooks.blogspot.com/

Sacha, the little bright shooting star

Sacha, the little bright shooting star
written and illustrated by Sofia Prezani
Language: English
ISBN: 9780957181007; 0957181000
46 pp.
$19.00
Available: http://www.childrensurrogacybook.com/
Available: http://www.amazon.co.uk/Sacha-Little-Bright-Shooting-Star/dp/0957181000/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1338466980&sr=8-1

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Will I Ever Have a Daddy?

Will I Ever Have a Daddy?
by Tena Moore
Language: English
Lulu, 2008
16 p. : col. ill. ; 28 cm.
My annotation: This is a personal book, written by the author for her daughter in order to explain to her how she was conceived and why she does not have a daddy. The author tells her daughter that babies are made when the mommy and daddy are ready to create one. However, because she never met a “daddy” to have a baby with, she went to a “special doctor” who put a “piece” from a man inside her belly in order to make the baby she had wanted since she herself was a child. After a “little operation,” the author then prayed for a baby to form inside of her. Her prayers were answered and she explains to her daughter that even though she does not have a daddy, she does have a Heavenly Father and that with prayer, it’s possible that He will one day give her a daddy. Although this Christian-themed book describes sperm and egg as “pieces,” and also does not use the term “donor,” the story is lovingly told and can still be used by single mothers who went this route in order to build their families. This book takes a family-building approach and employs the “helper” and “labor of love” scripts. The book is in color but uses clip-art. Recommended for ages 3-5.
Available: http://www.lulu.com/shop/tena-moore/will-i-ever-have-a-daddy/hardcover/product-4059485.html

Saturday, April 28, 2012

Nan's donut dilemma

Nan's donut dilemma
by Mary E. Ryan
illustrated by Colleen Muske
Language: English
Keen Editions, c2011.
32 p. : col. ill. ; 19 x 23 cm.
ISBN: 9780984660308; 0984660305
My annotation: Nan, a little girl in kindergarten, one day gets teased by her classmates because she does not have a dad and goes home to ask her mom, “why don’t I have a dad?” “Everyone has to have a mom and a dad,” says one of her classmates after all. Nan’s mom sits her down and tells her for the first time that that is a little bit true and a little bit untrue and begins to explain to Nan that it does take a man and a woman to make a baby but that in their case it was Doctor Deb and a “good man” she “never met” who “helped” her have her. She goes on to explain that that man is not her dad though because it takes “lots of love to make someone a mom or a dad.” Nan’s mom goes on to explain that she used to dream of falling in love and having children like her own mom, but that it just didn’t work out that way and that she “couldn’t wait one more second to find my way to you.” Although the words “sperm” and “donor” are never used, it is obvious that Nan’s mom used a sperm donor to conceive her little girl. The book conveys clearly how much her little girl was wanted and is loved and explains in a very gentle and loving way how children can be conceived this way. This book takes a family-building approach and employs the “helper” and “families are made differently” scripts. The full color illustrations are professionally rendered and the book is recommended for ages 3-5.
Available: http://www.nanstories.com/

Friday, April 27, 2012

Mom and Dad and the Journey They Had!

Mom and Dad and the Journey They Had!
by Molly Summer
illustrated by Monica Meza
Language: English
CreateSpace, 2010
26 pp.
ISBN: 9781451550054; 1451550057
Summary: The Thompson home is bustling with excitement because soon they will be welcoming a new baby into their family and Patrick will be a big brother for the very first time! As they are preparing the house, Patrick asks his parents to tell him about when he was a baby. They tell him about the incredible journey they took to have him, with the help of an egg donor.  
Available: http://www.amazon.com/Mom-Dad-Journey-They-Had/dp/1451550057
Available: http://lovemakesafamilybooks.com/books-assisted-reproduction.html

Surrogacy Helps Make a Family Grow

Surrogacy Helps Make a Family Grow
by Sharon LaMothe and Tina Rella
Language: English
CreateSpace, 2010
30 pp.
ISBN: 9781456486808; 1456486802  
Summary: Surrogacy Helps Make a Family Grow! is the heartfelt story of a family who decides to help a couple start of family of their own through gestational surrogacy. This book acts as an educational tool for children of gestational surrogates to better understand what their mothers are going through and the tremendous gift of family.  
Available: http://www.amazon.com/Surrogacy-Helps-Make-Family-Grow/dp/1456486802/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1338375831&sr=1-1

Why I'm So Special: A Book about Surrogacy with Two Daddies

Why I'm So Special: A Book about Surrogacy with Two Daddies
by Carla Lewis Long
illustrated by Tyler Simone Newman
edited by Bryna Jean-Marie
Language: English
AuthorHouse, 2011
40 p. ; col. ill. ; 22 x 22 cm.
ISBN: 9781468500073; 1468500074
My annotation: Narrated by the daughter of a gay couple, the unnamed child recounts the story of how her two daddies met in college, fell in love, got married, and wanted to start a family. She explains that the only way her daddies could have a baby of their own was through the help of a “special doctor” and a surrogate. Surrogates, she tells us, “are very special ladies who can carry babies in their tummies for daddies.” The two men visit an agency and are introduced to Polly, who would agree to become their surrogate. After a trip for all three to Paris, they go back to the special doctor who puts the “baby in Polly’s tummy so that it could start to grow.” Whose sperm is used is not mentioned. Nor is it mentioned whether an egg donor was used or whether the surrogate used her own egg. Nonetheless, the surrogate gives birth to a baby girl and the surrogate hands over the child to her two daddies. This book takes a family building approach and employs the “helper” script. The very good illustrations are by a nine-year-old child. Recommended for ages 3-5 because it is a very cursory introduction to surrogacy.
Available: http://www.carlalewislong.com 
Available: http://www.amazon.com/Why-Im-So-Special-Surrogacy/dp/1468500074

Tabitha and Timothy Grow a Flower

Tabitha and Timothy Grow a Flower
by Sarah Shackleton
illustrated by Gillian Coulson
Language: English
CreateSpace, 2010
36 pp.
ISBN: 1453630139; 9781453630136
Summary: A simple story to explain the concept of egg donation to a young child. There are several books that explain the specific details of egg donation and refer to biological fertilization, eggs, sperm, donors, pregnancy, etc, etc. Tabitha and Timothy Grow a Flower is for a much younger child. It is a starter book on the subject of third party reproduction. It was written to introduce the idea of egg donation, and to provide a conceptual reference for later conversations. Since many people choose to keep their circumstances private and not share with anyone that their child was conceived via third party reproduction, this book does not mention egg donation either within its pages or on its cover. The story is very simple... Tabitha and Timothy want to grow a flower, but it doesn't happen as easily as they expect. After many unsuccessful attempts with their own seeds, they find out about a kind lady who can help them. With her assistance, they achieve their dreams and grow a beautiful flower.
Available: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1453630139/ref=ox_sc_act_title_1?ie=UTF8&m=ATVPDKIKX0DER

Our Story

Our Story
by Mandy Leitenberger
Language: English
Lulu, 2007
24 pp.
$22.80
Summary: The heartwarming true tale of how Ella and Hanna joined our family!
Available: http://www.lulu.com/shop/mandy-leitenberger/our-story/hardcover/product-1010275.html

Special man

Special man
written and illustrated by Yevgeniya Kanterezhi
Language: English
Lulu, c2012.
16 p. : col. ill. ; 22 x 28 cm.
ISBN: 9781105630033
My annotation:  Special man is about two women who “loved each other very much” and wanted to start a family. The “special man” referred to in the book is the sperm donor who provided his “special seed” so that these two women could have children of their own. Throughout the book there is a strong sense of gratitude for this act of kindness on the donor’s part although the words “sperm” and “donor” are not used in the book, rather “special seed” and “special man” are used throughout. The child-like drawings depict real people, are in color and hand drawn by the author, and picture a loving family throughout.The donor is depicted as a man with a smile on his face. The book is autobiographical, written for the author’s children, specifically a boy and a girl, but would be suitable for other lesbian couples who also built their family through sperm donation. At one point in the book, the author’s son asks why he does not have a mommy and a daddy like his friend Mary, but it is explained to him that all families are “different” and “unique.” This book takes a family-building approach and employs the “helper” and “families are different” scripts. Recommended for children ages 3-5.
Available: http://www.lulu.com/shop/yevgeniya-kanterezhi/special-man/paperback/product-20077666.html

Saturday, August 13, 2011

Birds of a Different Feather

Birds of a different feather
by Kelly Wendel
Language: English
Mustang, Okla. : Tate Pub & Enterprises, ©2011.
1 v. (unpaged) : col. ill. ; 23 cm.
ISBN: 1617771872; 9781617771873
$9.99
Reading level: 4-8
Summary: Soon, Gosling wants siblings. She searches high and low. In the grass and thistles, she finds a baby duckling. She loves the new baby so much that she wants another bird to make the family complete. She soon finds a baby chicken under an oak tree. Come see how these Birds of a Different Feather make their own unique family.

Birds of a Different Feather is a beautifully illustrated and uplifting story of a family that is formed differently than most. This book speaks directly to families comprised of members with differing genetic backgrounds such as adoptive and foster families, blended families with step and half siblings, and families assisted by extensive reproductive technology. However, it shares a message of love and acceptance for all families through its whimsical text and enchanting artistry.
Available: http://kelleywendel.tateauthor.com/
Available: http://www.amazon.com/Birds-Different-Feather-Kelley-Wendel/dp/1617771872/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1338465933&sr=1-1

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

The Adventures of Princess Mommy: A Fairy Tale for Single Mothers and Their Children

The Adventures of Princess Mommy: A Fairy Tale for Single Mothers and Their Children
written and illustrated by Ali Sherwin
Language: English
Montclair, NJ: 13th Moon, c2009.
30 p. : col. ill. ; 22 x 28 cm.
ISBN: 9780981955910
My annotation: This is a personal fairy tale written by the “Princess Mommy” for her child. She relates the story of how she looked very hard to find the right prince in order to make a baby with. After she meets several colorful characters who do not measure up to her expectations for fatherhood, she finally decides to go to a “Wise Woman” to obtain a “magic seed” that can be placed inside of her "egg" in order to make a baby. The Wise Woman directs her to a tree with so many magic seeds she is at first overwhelmed, but she picks ten and brings them home to her family who help her pick just the right one to make a baby with. In the end she gets her desired child and tells her child that she “was much happier than she would have been if she had married one of those Frog Princes, because those guys weren’t good enough for Mommy and they weren’t good enough for you.” This book about choosing single motherhood via sperm donation is a personal story that might not work for your family story as it is very specific to this mother’s own experiences of trying to find her Prince. However, this book takes a family-building approach and employs the “labor of love” script. Full-color illustrations are hand-drawn by the author. Recommended for children ages 3-5.
Available: http://13thmoon.net/html/mommy.html

Monday, July 4, 2011

The Baby Kangaroo Treasure Hunt: a Gay Parenting Story

The Baby Kangaroo Treasure Hunt, a gay parenting story
written by Carmen Martínez Jover
illustrated by Rosemary Martínez.
Language: English
[Mexico] : Carmen Martínez Jover, ©2009.
16 pp.
ISBN: 6070008464; 9786070008467
$17.00
Summary: A sweet children's story of how two kangaroos: Jack and Sam, a gay couple, have their own baby by means of an egg donor and surrogacy. Using kangaroos in the story enables children to easily understand the methods related to their conception in a simple and loving way.
Available: http://www.carmenmartinezjover.com/librocanguro.html
Available: http://www.amazon.com/Baby-Kangaroo-Treasure-parenting-story/dp/6070008464/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1338465488&sr=1-1

Bayje's Story: An IVF Tale for Little People

Bayje's Story: An IVF Tale for Little People
by Tanisha Danyette Brandon
Language: English
Baltimore, Md. : Publishamerica Inc, 2010.
1 v. (unpaged) : col. ill. ; 22 cm.
ISBN: 1448970024; 9781448970025
Summary: Some babies grow in their mommy's hearts; some grow in their mommy's stomachs. This is the story of a baby that grew in both. Told in easy to understand language, this true tale describes the journey of an IVF baby from conception to birth. With real photographs, IVF toddlers everywhere will delight in sharing Bayje's story, and hopefully better understand their own. Great for a night time story or just cuddle time.
Available: http://www.publishamerica.net/product36500.html